How I Want To Be Known
In life, people around us have different views of who we are, which means there are various versions of us out there. This is how we are disliked or liked by others. The result of acting and reacting differently with others. For example, someone who gets on your last nerve gets a version of you that may not be as pleasant as your best friend who gets the down to earth version (most of the time).
When thinking about who we are and how we want to be seen, it can give us some guidance on our goals, our actions and our direction in life. We don't want to overstress about our words and our behaviors. On the contrary, keep in mind "how I want to be remembered" to give us a base line. If we want to be seen as loving, caring and honest, our actions will reflect that goal.
One main aspect to think about is people in OUR lives who have been and are unforgettable. They obtain qualities and act in positives way that impact our lives . What qualities do they obtain? What makes them memorable?
"I'd like to be known for stepping up, and encouraging others to do the same." -Leigh Anne Tuohy
The past year, I've struggled to feel accepted in my work place and with the people around me. I feel misunderstood, as though I am seen in a negative way. The stereotype of being young, making people think I'm always on my phone, lazy and not wanting to work. This made me realize I want to be remembered and seen as the following, in my life.
Family
My family is very important to me. My mom, dad, sister and I are close. I love spending time with them, having dinner and doing activities. I'm a daughter and I want my family to know me as respectful, thoughtful, energetic, fun, hardworking and reliable.
I want to start a family of my own, and I'd like to follow through with the same values and qualities within my children and significant other.
Sister
I have a younger sister, and of course she falls under the family category, but she also falls under the sister category. As I am her older sister, it comes with responsibility. I give reassurance and guidance to her life and I can teach her new things.
I want my sister to see me as dependable: someone who is there for her no matter what. I want her to know she is never alone: seeing me as supportive. I also want her to feel loved and cherished.
Friends
I've learned to think about how I want to be treated in life, this is how I aim to think about my friendships. I want to treat my friends in ways that I would like to be treated.
I like spending time with my friends, on the weekends, after work and whenever I have the time: even if it's only for an hour. Therefore, I want my friends to know I'm dependable and trustworthy.
As a friend I also want to be reliable, honest and present. For me, this means taking the time to properly communicate my thoughts and intentions when necessary with my friends. As well as taking the time to be off my phone and in the moment while hanging out with them.
Coworker
Work is a structured place, where we go with the intention of getting paid by completing tasks and goals.
In my workplace, I want to be seen as punctual: I aim to arrive at work earlier. I want people to know I am a hard working individual: I rarely call in sick and even when I am not feeling a hundred percent I show up and work my full potential. In multiple different scenarios, I show that I am flexible: I help others and change around my schedule when needed.
Within my daily job, I'd like to be seen as punctual, hardworking, respectful, reliable and creative. Every work day I aim to respect my coworkers with the same respect I'd like in return.
We can use the question "how do I want to be seen?" as a guide for our daily lives, plans in life, actions and future decisions. If we want to be known as someone who is thoughtful: our actions will reflect that outcome such as helping others in need or asking people around us how their day is.
When we break our lives in sections: work, friends, family, activities, strangers, we can present ourselves in the way that suites us best.
Now my question is .... how do you want to be known in your life?
Josée™
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